Loving a warrior requires a lot of conditioning of the mind. You have to be able to focus on some things while completely ignoring others. It's almost like a game. During separations, you focus on remember the smiles and embraces, and counting the days left until your reunion. You occupy yourself with unnecessary tasks and hobbies. On particularly sucky days you remind yourself that this time apart isn't forever, that the health care is free, and that the pay doesn't completely suck. You tell yourself things that let you get by, and you shut out the stuff that brings you to tears.
You don't think the scary thoughts. When you tell your friends that "he's training" you don't think about what he's training for. When you say "he's working" you don't think about the thousand hazards of the job. And when he mentions deployment... You do your very best to think of it as just another separation. You never ever consider the possibility that he might not come home. If you did, you'd fall apart. And that's just not an option for a supportive military wife.
Now, before you all jump to the wrong conclusion, no, Kyle isn't going anywhere. He's staying safely in Germany for the time being, but I am not the only woman in the blogosphere who has a man in the military. Mrs. P. (of A Little Pink in a World of Camo) recently came face to face with the unthinkable when she lost her husband while he was on his first tour in Afghanistan.
I don't think there are words to describe her experience, but she's making the brave attempt to share it with us anyway. Her blog has become a symbol of hope and courage even in the face of total despair, and it is my hope that you'll all lend her your support.
There is a new button over in my sidebar. It provides a direct link to Mrs. P's fund-raising efforts in honor of her husband. All proceeds go to help wounded warriors and their families. The two links below it will introduce you properly to the fundraiser and to the inspirational Mrs. herself.