This wedding is the most difficult part of my life right now, and it is not for any of the reasons you would suspect. I haven't had any problems finding my dress, choosing my bridesmaids, picking a location, or deciding what flowers I'd like. In fact, I haven't had any problems with the details.
I haven't had any problems with the planning because I can't start planning at all.
There has been a mix up with Kyle's leave, and now I can't even be sure that he is coming home for the wedding this summer. Since I can't very well have the ceremony without the groom, this complicates things. I can't begin planning until I know when and if he can come home, and if I do not begin planning, I won't have enough time to put together the huge event we anticipated.
I have about three options as far as I can tell:
Option A -- If things work out so that Kyle can come home, I can always slap together a ceremony in a crunch. It might not be the ceremony I have always invisioned, but the important thing is that we are married. So long as that happens, I'll go home happy at the end of the day.
Option B -- If things do not work out, and Kyle can't come home this summer, I could theoretically fly back to Germany with a few family members in tow and have the ceremony there. This would allow us to move ahead on our current timeline, and have me moving over towards the middle to end of this summer, but it would also mean that a lot of our friends and family wouldn't be able to be at the wddding.
Option C -- This one really isn't an option at all. I could postpone the wedding until sometime late this year, or possibly early next. That would give me more time to plan, and would ensure that everyone we care about could be in attendence. However, I think that this is out of the question. I cannot postpone moving anymore than I already have. ...I don't want to be without him now, let alone for another whole year. It also complicates my college plan. I'm supposed to be transferring to UMUC after the current semester. Postponing the wedding and my move postpones when I can re-enter college. That is not something I want to worry about. Transferring at all is going to make me graduate later, and the longer I am out of school the longer it will take me to finish.
I am more frustrated than I have been in a long time. I have so many things to do, so much to organize, but I can't. I can't book photographers or commision a cake or go shopping with my bridesmaids for their dresses. I don't even know which of my bridesmaids will be able to make it to the wedding if I have to move it across an ocean.
...What exactly am I supposed to do in this situation? Any of you ladies had this problem? What did you do?